When GOOD turns to Dissapointment

“How We Too Often Make Our Good Feelings Turn Into Dissapointment”

It is really easy to do and we so often do it without even noticing.  Follow this and see if you are one of these people, even some of the time.

So, you get a good feeling, maybe a gut instinct and you feel like something good is around you or going to happen to you.  That’s a nice feeling! 

What do you — we — often do?!  We LOOK for confirmation.  We buy a lottery ticket, start dreaming of what would happen if….  We imagine that NOW is the time our ship will come in etc. etc.  Guess what?  When those things don’t happen, we get dissapointed, we even get depressd: “how come other people have this or that and I don’t…?”  “How come I didn’t win this or gain that?” 

Of course, the next thing that happens is… well, the good feelings are gone and we have served only to prove the good feelings false.  Not a great reinforcing cycle.

WHAT TO DO?!

As the Beatles said, “let it be”.  If you feel good or feel the presence of good, let it be!  If you do that, and DON’T look for anything the feeling lasts a long long time. 

My oldest daughter said to me at dinner tonight, after I was informing her about some writing I have been doing lately, “Dad, sometimes we weren’t meant to look too hard for things; sometimes we just have to let go and let things happen.”  She is right.  We then had a good talk about what I have just written for you to read.  We had a laugh and then agreed: “Let it be, and good things last so much longer… maybe your whole life long…”

Namaste

“BEING Through The Negative”

“There’s always stuff that happens in our lives that we do not want”

Its how you approach it and how you weather it that makes All the difference in the world.  Read on and find out how to BE through the negative and return to the positive. Read the rest of this entry »

We are like batteries… ! (?)

Human beings are great energy getters — great energy users. 

Like a battery, however, we do not store energy well over the long term. 

It is like this: we eat and sleep and rest to gain energy — when we are active we use energy.  If we practice a disciplined management of the FLOW of our energy between intake and activity, we can create greater and greater capacity for the storage and use of energy.   If we simply store and conserve energy, however, we do NOT get a good return on our investment.

Have you ever had a flashlight sit for a year?  Is it as bright one year later as it was the day it was purchased?  We know from common experience that it will not be as bright.  It loses energy in its lack of use.  The energy dissipates and is lost and is never available for a useful purpose: in this case, the illumination of dark places.

Imagine just sleeping and eating for a year.  Would you be ready to run several marathons and lift copious weights for days and days as a result?  Of course not!  The return on conservation of energy over the long term is not good.

This doesn’t meant that rest and relaxation are not useful and helpful, but we are at our best and our most effective and efficient when we manage our energy in the short term and build our capacity to USE energy.  We are most effective as short-term energy gainers and as energy users.

If you have been reading other entries in this blog, you know that we are energy creators as well…

Create something with purpose,

Douglas Leadbetter M.Ed.

On reading and writing

There are many people who have a great deal to say.  With the advent of blogs, this desire to communicate has increased exponentially.  The large university I attended for two of my degrees had 30 000 people go to class each day!  In that university there were six major libraries filled with books.  Levels and levels, and floor upon floor of books.  Simply mind blowing — and that was only ONE university.  How many more sites around the world house books?!  Add to this, the blog… and well, people REALLY want to communicate.  For some it is a life purpose. 

On the subject of communication, I have a few well-chosen words to add.  If people are going to go through with the work of reading, the writing had better make the grade.  Here’s what I think: Read the rest of this entry »

Energy Flows… so what do you do about it?

Energy, by its nature, flows.  Moving from one state to another, one place to another etc.  So if energy is always present and moving, what does that mean to you?

Individually, it is all about how you cultivate and use your energy.  Just like a garden.  Furrow the fields, tend to the plants, demonstrate care, provide effort to the well being, and you will likely yield positive results.  A person is just like a garden.  You don’t get a positive yeild in a garden without thought, direction, and effort.  As a person, you must be your own tender of energy.  You must use the power of thought, direction, and effort, and you can yield your own positive results.

What about groups?   Groups have energy, and you can try to stop it, forceably redirect it, or find a way to help steer, or influence to the positive, the inevitable flow of energy.  Energy flows in groups and exists.  And because energy does not like to be stifled, many groups who feel stifled tend to find negative outlets for their energy — yeilding poor, or negative results.  Groups need to have collective thoughts such as mission or vision, as well as the direction of purpose, and they need to have avenues to exert effort — to work. 

Energy flows.  You can try and stop it or your can find ways of cultivating it to the positive.

Have a look at these Aikido videos.  Or, find out a little more about this fascinating martial art that focuses on the flow of energy.  Aikido.com is a nice place to start.  A discipline to be respected, Aikido, has a great deal to teach.