When GOOD turns to Dissapointment

“How We Too Often Make Our Good Feelings Turn Into Dissapointment”

It is really easy to do and we so often do it without even noticing.  Follow this and see if you are one of these people, even some of the time.

So, you get a good feeling, maybe a gut instinct and you feel like something good is around you or going to happen to you.  That’s a nice feeling! 

What do you — we — often do?!  We LOOK for confirmation.  We buy a lottery ticket, start dreaming of what would happen if….  We imagine that NOW is the time our ship will come in etc. etc.  Guess what?  When those things don’t happen, we get dissapointed, we even get depressd: “how come other people have this or that and I don’t…?”  “How come I didn’t win this or gain that?” 

Of course, the next thing that happens is… well, the good feelings are gone and we have served only to prove the good feelings false.  Not a great reinforcing cycle.

WHAT TO DO?!

As the Beatles said, “let it be”.  If you feel good or feel the presence of good, let it be!  If you do that, and DON’T look for anything the feeling lasts a long long time. 

My oldest daughter said to me at dinner tonight, after I was informing her about some writing I have been doing lately, “Dad, sometimes we weren’t meant to look too hard for things; sometimes we just have to let go and let things happen.”  She is right.  We then had a good talk about what I have just written for you to read.  We had a laugh and then agreed: “Let it be, and good things last so much longer… maybe your whole life long…”

Namaste

Anchor Your Own Abundance

Recall the tuning forks we looked at earlier.  We know that if one is struck and placed near another that has the same frequency, the second will begin to resonate with the first.  Stop the first, and the second will go on resonating.  Through the application of energy, the first tuning fork puts forth a vibration at a particular frequency.  The second fork, in its creation, was built to put forth or receive the same frequency as the first.  We see that the net effect the application of energy has is resonation, and as it is for the tuning forks it is for us.   We resonate with, give energy to, and get energy from the thoughts, conditions, and experiences that share the frequency of our own vibration.  

You get what you focus upon; you get what you are.  You have likely heard the great truth from Proverbs 23:7: “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”   It is of primary importance that we think deliberately in our hearts in order to deliberately achieve that which we desire. The work of deliberately seeking material for and creating specific and detailed thoughts and images that will become central to your state of resonance is step six of this system.  This step is concerned with action and will be accomplished through the second action tool as explained below.

You get what you focus upon; you get what you are.  It is now time to refine and strengthen your resonation with affluence.  Think of affluence as a set of goal posts in a great game of life.  Though the game of life and goal posts as goals, are overused metaphors, they have a brief purpose in this system because the metaphor demonstrates that you have to know where the goal posts are in order to play the game properly and to score the winning goal.  Though life is not a game and affluence is not a shot at the net, the metaphor has merit in the image it creates: you have to determine what affluence is to you and what it looks like in order to reach your goals and realize your desires.  You have put effort into this area already, and it is now time to refine and strengthen the work you have done. 

Ready?  Look at this series of questions and feel the quality answers that resonate with you; find the answers that make practical sense and bring a quality feeling to you.   The questions follow.  What is your vision of health?  What does your vision of wealth look like?  What makes you deeply happy?  These are broad, guiding questions you will use to form your focused resonance images.  The point here is that you are looking for images that resonate within you.  When I see my image of health for instance, I am just finishing a tough hike in the coastal forest and I am smiling, full of energy, and ready to vibrantly take on some quality work later in my day.  It’s a nice image and it feels good to go to that image when I think of health; there is a lot of meaning and feeling associated with a quality image, so let’s get you working on your special images that you will carry with you always.

You understand and believe in the power of resonant energy, and you know why it is important to become resonant and you have chosen to do so.  You have an understanding of consciousness and of the connection between the parts and of the Whole Self.  You are now ready for Action Tool #2: create definite and detailed, consciously directed and intensely focused images of your desired state of affluence and commit them to deep and feeling memory.  The images you are about to create have to be of the deepest and most feeling sort because saying you want affluence and providing a general idea is not enough; it’s too vague and you can only obtain a vague realization from a vague image.  The work is upon you now.  It is time to take up some paper and a pen and write at the top of three blank pages a heading on each: on the first, health; on the second, wealth; and on the third, happiness.  You are about to fill those pages.  Please don’t concentrate on being neat and tidy during this exercise; you are meant to gracefully enjoy the flow of creativity.  You can always do a good copy later if you need to!  J

When you begin, it will be important to create your images in the positive.  That is to say that if you want an image that is concerned with eradicating fear in your life, don’t focus on ‘no fear’ focus upon confidence and well-being or strength.  If you want to eradicate lack, don’t focus on ‘no lack,’ focus instead upon abundance.  The reason for this is that you must focus upon and resonate with what you want, not what you don’t want.  When you begin in a moment, you will be committing three types of information to the page: (i) drawings or doodling, or cuttings of pictures; (ii) writing in the form of image phrases and sentences; and, (iii) splashing and smatterings of single words related to the heading.  Each of these three categories is of course related to your presently desired, optimal state of health, then wealth, then happiness.  Again, the reason for doing this is to create focused, believable mental images with strongly associated feelings that you will carry about and focus upon in your daily internal environment.  These images will help you to create your state of resonance in every moment, and quickly right your state when you stray.  They will help you to liberate and generate energy from the alignment of the Whole Self. They will become the quality images you immediately associate with health and wealth and happiness each time you hear or utter these words.  So, this is pretty important.

Before you begin filling those pages, let us take a moment to look one more time at belief.  This is so critical.  You have to believe your images or you will create false and weak resonance, and your ensuing actions will not be of the necessary quality to attain your desires.  You must believe your images, but what does that mean to this exercise?  Well, in a practical sense it will not do to create an image of your health wherein you are the fastest person on earth as well as a professional power-lifter and champion jockey all in one; it will not do to imagine that next week you will be the richest person on earth; and it will not do to imagine that you will laugh and giggle and live in a constant state of hysterical delirium.  No, your images must be first and foremost believable.  Stretch to the outer edge of your current state of belief, but go no further.  As you begin to feel the power of this system, as likely you have already, you will be able to grow your images as it feels appropriate; you will be able to expand your definitions of health, wealth, and happiness as you develop greater belief in your abilities and your growth.  Take on that growth when you feel it authentically coming from within you, but for now ask yourself and answer: “What does my really wonderful state of increasing affluence look, sound, feel, taste, and smell like in the next six months?”  You will absolutely be able to come back to this exercise, and you will do so fluidly and frequently well before six months is over.  You can see, though, that a solid start with believable material is vital.  Success begets success, so start with a believable stretch.  You need not wonder how you will accomplish and obtain the conditions and experiences you image, but the answers are in the fact that (i) you will deeply resonate with your images thus creating the immediate benefits associated with powerful resonation, as outlined previously; (ii) in the next chapters you will establish important direction and learn to take effective action daily thus choreographing events that will open doors and smooth paths for you to realize these images; (iii) you will learn and engage further action tools to complement and develop what you have already learned; and, (iv) you will come upon serendipitous happenings, excellent intuition, energy to make change, positive states of motion, and much more that is excellent and well.  This is just the way it is!

There is no time like the present… in fact there is no other time than the present… so, please begin.  Find a quiet place, put on some soothing music, pour a cup of tea, calm down and cool out into those powerful Alpha waves… enjoy doodling, phrasing, and splashing words upon your pages.  When you are done in an hour or in a few days, use the pictures, images, and words you have laid down to create a solid, grounded image or series of images in your mind.  You will know that you have completed this action well when you are able to hear or say each of the words health, wealth, and happiness and have an immediately associated image or image set occur strongly in your mind – one that simultaneously initiates deeply resonant feelings of satisfaction, and rightness.   Spend the time you need to fully complete this action step.  Focus on affluence, as you get what you focus upon; you get what you are.  Your belief in and work with these understandings is directly related to the success you will have positively influencing affluence in your life….

Counterclockwise

Scientific American often has great articles about the human mind.  The one that I will reference today is again, quite satisfying.  You can read it here. 

From the article:  “Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility
by Ellen J. Langer. Random House, 2009
When she was in her 20s, Harvard University psychologist Ellen J. Langer fainted occasionally, and doctors said she might have epilepsy. She decided to take the matter into her own hands, mentally “catching” herself sooner and sooner when she felt faint, until the fainting disappeared. That empowering experience set the tone for her remarkable 30-year career, much of which she has spent figuring out how to help people take almost miraculous control over their lives.”

It goes on to explain how test subjects lost weight, gained weight, appeared more youthful, became healthier all as a result of their perspectives in particular situations.  An example is given of cleaning staff in some Boston hotels who were told that the work they did every day definitely satisfied the government guidelines for a healthy lifestyle.  Guess what?!  They started to become more healthy.  Then there are the elderly gentlemenwho were ‘taken back in time’ by having them live like they did when they were younger… they became more youthful and healthy — they also gained weight, which was a desirable outcome.

AMAZING.

Gratefully Appreciate; Gratefully Allow

The Synergy in Life System — Section 21

This next section reminds me of the dynamic tension needed to play a sport well or to do well playing an instrument, or to excell in the arena of academia, or being an excellent craftsperson… etc.  The dynamic tension I speak of is that needed concentration on the task at hand — that complete being in the moment — coupled with a gentle, positive mindset.  Too much mental focus, or ‘forcing’ will not allow the flow needed to excell.  To flow… you must flow. 

Gratefully appreciating and allowing is a mental state.  A mental state that is concentrated, dynamic, and pleasantly positive.  A dynamic balance.  Is there a better state of mind?!

Gratefully Appreciate; Gratefully Allow

Gratefully appreciate and gratefully allow affluence to be your natural state.  Gratefully appreciate what you have now and gratefully allow yourself the correct belief that you are meant to express life fully and with joy, meant to enjoy abundant affluence.  Be grateful for and nourish the health you have now.  Give fuel to that health by noticing it, exploring it, appreciating it and expanding upon it.  Be grateful for and nourish the wealth you do have.  Give fuel to that wealth by noticing it, exploring it, appreciating it and expanding upon it.  Be grateful for and nourish the happiness you do have.  Give fuel to that happiness by noticing it, exploring it, appreciating it and expanding upon it.  Gratefully allow affluence to abundantly increase in your life, as it is meant to.

Gratefully focus upon what you desire with such clarity and enthusiasm that you leave no room for other thoughts and actions.  Focus your mind upon affluence.  Believe in affluence, give thought to affluence, and feel it within you, for this authentic triad of belief, directed thought, and feeling is the first experience you will have with a concept that will be given more attention later called Inner Management. For now, however, and in logical progression, Step three is to gratefully believe in the rightness of your desire for affluence with such force of thought, intensity and pervading feeling that there is no room left within you to hold contrary thoughts or to take contrary actions.  Give everything to your positive development, save nothing for the negative.  Affluence was intended for you upon your inception, and now you must prepare to meet it at the source.  Pursue your natural expression, resonate with your natural expression, and gratefully appreciate, gratefully allow.

The highs and the lows of life…

“Life is a gift when you know how to create and enjoy the highs

and survive and build strength from the lows.”

This quote is from the “about DRL” section of this site.  I didn’t really remember writing it until a good friend mentioned something about it hanging on many office walls in her hospital. 

At this, I twisted my head and said, “what is hanging on many office walls in your hospital?” 

“Your quote!” she said. 

“What quote?!” I remarked ever more intrigued.  Well,  you get the idea. Eventually she got out her Blackberry and brought up my page and read it back to me.  “Wow,” I said.  “That’s pretty good!”

I smile even now.  What I wrote was and is true and I am very honored that Heidi has it on her wall and others have taken to making photocopies and putting it on their walls….  Absolutely fantastic. 

What is very interesting to me is that I forgot that I wrote this little line, and even more so, that people would be inspired by my words.  Thank you!  Thank you; thank you.

Its amazing what effects we have, every day.

The Grameen bank and You

The Synergy in Life System — Section 20

Ever heard of the Grameen Bank?  No collateral, No legal instrument, No group guarantee or joint-liability.  And… unlike many banks right now, this one is doing FANTASTICLY well!

If there was ever a story worth telling it is of the Grameen Bank and Professor Yunus.  He is a pioneer or magnificent magnanimity.  Below is the 20th excerpt from my book The Synergy in Life System.  Please read about this Nobel prize winning professor and how he helps others.  It has a bearing in your life too.

Helping Others

Some will say that they cannot or should not have affluence because there are so many poor and unfortunate people in the world who have nothing other than misery in their lives.  As you likely are deeply concerned about the plight of poor and unfortunate people, you should spend some of your time helping them.  You can help them best, however, not by giving them some form of material things that will keep them in their place, but through giving them the power of hope and by developing pictures of affluence in their minds, and by helping them to realize their deserved expression of life.  Read the rest of this entry »

Positive Self Talk Reduces Stress and Happiness Makes you More Successful!

Positive Self Talk Reduces Stress and Happiness Makes you More Successful!

I like the ABOUT website because it hosts experts in many fields.  I have an application on my igoogle page that feeds headlines from several sites to my desktop each day, including those on ABOUT.

This morning, the following articles really caught my eye.

Reduce Stress and Improve Your Life with Positive Self Talk

and the next one as well

Happy People — Secrets of Happy People

Now, these sites have all sorts of advertising, but that’s okay.  The information is sound.  It just goes to show — once again — how important directed thought is.  The resources I studied and synthesized for my book go back as far as 2000 or so years right through to the present.  Here is another example of modern science discovering the power of thought.  Systemitized synergy… its the best!  Have a great day!

Happy Chance Happenings…

I had a wild experience somewhere over 20 years ago now.  This is an excerpt from The Synergy in Life System.  Section 13.

Landscaping the Mind

I met a remarkable man who was working as a landscaper during the summer of 1989; at that time, he planted a powerful thought in my mind: the idea of us as human beings resonating at the same rate as the experience we desire.  This was a powerful awakening for me. 

I was undertaking life as a university student and working hard to pay for the up-coming year of study through my newly formed business, installing underground sprinklers.  On this particular day, the landscaping gentleman and I were working on the grounds of a stunning home that overlooked the beautiful city of Vancouver.  He was planting shrubs and grass, and I was laying sprinkler pipe into the ground.  We talked generally at first and then more deeply and philosophically as we grew comfortable with one another.  At one point he stopped and looked at me hard as if to pierce my soul, then he pointed to the city below us.  He said, “Do you see all those tall buildings clustered in the center of the city down there?” I admitted that I did.  He continued with, “well, those represent commerce, money and wealth; and the area over there,” he said, “do you know what goes on in that part of the city?”  I guessed from his first comment that he was contrasting the commercial center by pointing in the general direction of one of the seedier parts of the city.  I said, “Drugs and crime?”  He looked at me again, and nodded.  “Yes, that part of town represents a miserable way of living.  There exists everything in between as well, we know that, but those two areas represent the extremes of existence.” I nodded that I understood.  He went on to say, “Both of those parts of society have existed since societies began.  There have always been those that live in luxury and those that live in squalor, and your life will be based upon,” he said, then took a pause of considerable effect, “which one you choose to resonate with.”

We talked more that day, and then parted ways.  I don’t know his name, but will never forget this profound and enlightened man.  Each day I appreciate his poignant and lasting influence as I think the thoughts, make choices, and take action to resonate with affluence and purpose.

Purposeful, harmonious, directed thought and resonance

 Purposeful, harmonious, directed thought and resonance…  If everything everywhere has and is energy, then there is a great logic to learning to understand and gain control of energy.  If you resonate with anger and resentment, that’s what you’ll get.  If you resonate with purpose and optmism, then you are developing a condition of what you want in your life.  This is section 12 of The Synergy in Life System.  Enjoy.  Thanks, Douglas Leadbetter M.Ed. Read the rest of this entry »

Does Optimism Make You Live Longer?

Optimism is related to longer life in a new Scientific American quoted study.  Check it out!  I love the second comment left on the SA page after the article!  Hilarious.  Question: how does optimism relate to energy that you can control?  Are you in charge of creating optimism?

The Synergy in Life System — Section 11

Did we all recently hear something like this, “yes we can!”

What is that but a positive statement that suggests positive action?  Its simple, yet effective.  There’s no need to wait until the perfect direction comes up or the perfect plan is laid out… because they don’t exist.  We are always moving in a direction and if we are thoughtful, we engage in planning as we go, with a mind to be able to change.  Thoughts are powerful.   Statements are powerful.  And, there’s scientific logic to back this up.  Have a look at the next section of the Synergy in Life System.  Read the rest of this entry »