When GOOD turns to Dissapointment

“How We Too Often Make Our Good Feelings Turn Into Dissapointment”

It is really easy to do and we so often do it without even noticing.  Follow this and see if you are one of these people, even some of the time.

So, you get a good feeling, maybe a gut instinct and you feel like something good is around you or going to happen to you.  That’s a nice feeling! 

What do you — we — often do?!  We LOOK for confirmation.  We buy a lottery ticket, start dreaming of what would happen if….  We imagine that NOW is the time our ship will come in etc. etc.  Guess what?  When those things don’t happen, we get dissapointed, we even get depressd: “how come other people have this or that and I don’t…?”  “How come I didn’t win this or gain that?” 

Of course, the next thing that happens is… well, the good feelings are gone and we have served only to prove the good feelings false.  Not a great reinforcing cycle.

WHAT TO DO?!

As the Beatles said, “let it be”.  If you feel good or feel the presence of good, let it be!  If you do that, and DON’T look for anything the feeling lasts a long long time. 

My oldest daughter said to me at dinner tonight, after I was informing her about some writing I have been doing lately, “Dad, sometimes we weren’t meant to look too hard for things; sometimes we just have to let go and let things happen.”  She is right.  We then had a good talk about what I have just written for you to read.  We had a laugh and then agreed: “Let it be, and good things last so much longer… maybe your whole life long…”

Namaste

Do you make choices, or do choices make you?

An interesting concept.  Of course, we are often “choice-full” creatures.  Sometimes, we know, we react to events, other people, without thinking very much and are then “reactive.”

But, a little futher along this pattern of thought arises the question posed in this title.  Do we make choices?  The answer is of course… yes.  In terms of thinking in systems, however, the next part of the title has to be considered.  And that is, do those choices eventually make you?  An obvious example is a person who drinks heavily every day… making choices… and then that behavior ‘creates’ an alcoholic.  In this case the choices do make the person.  Too obvious.  What about the little choices, the patterns, and the ruts that people repeat over and over?

Do our choices — over time — create us?

Counterclockwise

Scientific American often has great articles about the human mind.  The one that I will reference today is again, quite satisfying.  You can read it here. 

From the article:  “Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility
by Ellen J. Langer. Random House, 2009
When she was in her 20s, Harvard University psychologist Ellen J. Langer fainted occasionally, and doctors said she might have epilepsy. She decided to take the matter into her own hands, mentally “catching” herself sooner and sooner when she felt faint, until the fainting disappeared. That empowering experience set the tone for her remarkable 30-year career, much of which she has spent figuring out how to help people take almost miraculous control over their lives.”

It goes on to explain how test subjects lost weight, gained weight, appeared more youthful, became healthier all as a result of their perspectives in particular situations.  An example is given of cleaning staff in some Boston hotels who were told that the work they did every day definitely satisfied the government guidelines for a healthy lifestyle.  Guess what?!  They started to become more healthy.  Then there are the elderly gentlemenwho were ‘taken back in time’ by having them live like they did when they were younger… they became more youthful and healthy — they also gained weight, which was a desirable outcome.

AMAZING.

Consciousness is more than one thing…

Consciousness is more than one thing.  It’s actually four things!  And knowing that gives you immense power to create your own personal synergy.

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Piercing the Ego Consciousness

Section 25 — The Synergy in Life System

You really really have to read and digest this bit….  It is exceptionally powerful information.  Understanding ths construction of ego signals the beginning of a new path.

Piercing the Ego Consciousness

In each of our heads there is an ongoing stream of thought and even a voice that rambles on through nearly every moment of our existence.  In doing so, it is creating a resonance, yet most people are wholly unaware of and not in control of the thoughts and so not in control of the frequency; most people are not at all in touch with their resonance, it just happens haphazardly because the stream of thoughts go on without direction.  To a great extent this stream of thinking and the emotions associated with it is compulsive, reactive, repetitive, and involuntary – not at all under control – in fact, they are controlling you.  Read the rest of this entry »

Energy Flows… so what do you do about it?

Energy, by its nature, flows.  Moving from one state to another, one place to another etc.  So if energy is always present and moving, what does that mean to you?

Individually, it is all about how you cultivate and use your energy.  Just like a garden.  Furrow the fields, tend to the plants, demonstrate care, provide effort to the well being, and you will likely yield positive results.  A person is just like a garden.  You don’t get a positive yeild in a garden without thought, direction, and effort.  As a person, you must be your own tender of energy.  You must use the power of thought, direction, and effort, and you can yield your own positive results.

What about groups?   Groups have energy, and you can try to stop it, forceably redirect it, or find a way to help steer, or influence to the positive, the inevitable flow of energy.  Energy flows in groups and exists.  And because energy does not like to be stifled, many groups who feel stifled tend to find negative outlets for their energy — yeilding poor, or negative results.  Groups need to have collective thoughts such as mission or vision, as well as the direction of purpose, and they need to have avenues to exert effort — to work. 

Energy flows.  You can try and stop it or your can find ways of cultivating it to the positive.

Have a look at these Aikido videos.  Or, find out a little more about this fascinating martial art that focuses on the flow of energy.  Aikido.com is a nice place to start.  A discipline to be respected, Aikido, has a great deal to teach.

Gratefully Appreciate; Gratefully Allow

The Synergy in Life System — Section 21

This next section reminds me of the dynamic tension needed to play a sport well or to do well playing an instrument, or to excell in the arena of academia, or being an excellent craftsperson… etc.  The dynamic tension I speak of is that needed concentration on the task at hand — that complete being in the moment — coupled with a gentle, positive mindset.  Too much mental focus, or ‘forcing’ will not allow the flow needed to excell.  To flow… you must flow. 

Gratefully appreciating and allowing is a mental state.  A mental state that is concentrated, dynamic, and pleasantly positive.  A dynamic balance.  Is there a better state of mind?!

Gratefully Appreciate; Gratefully Allow

Gratefully appreciate and gratefully allow affluence to be your natural state.  Gratefully appreciate what you have now and gratefully allow yourself the correct belief that you are meant to express life fully and with joy, meant to enjoy abundant affluence.  Be grateful for and nourish the health you have now.  Give fuel to that health by noticing it, exploring it, appreciating it and expanding upon it.  Be grateful for and nourish the wealth you do have.  Give fuel to that wealth by noticing it, exploring it, appreciating it and expanding upon it.  Be grateful for and nourish the happiness you do have.  Give fuel to that happiness by noticing it, exploring it, appreciating it and expanding upon it.  Gratefully allow affluence to abundantly increase in your life, as it is meant to.

Gratefully focus upon what you desire with such clarity and enthusiasm that you leave no room for other thoughts and actions.  Focus your mind upon affluence.  Believe in affluence, give thought to affluence, and feel it within you, for this authentic triad of belief, directed thought, and feeling is the first experience you will have with a concept that will be given more attention later called Inner Management. For now, however, and in logical progression, Step three is to gratefully believe in the rightness of your desire for affluence with such force of thought, intensity and pervading feeling that there is no room left within you to hold contrary thoughts or to take contrary actions.  Give everything to your positive development, save nothing for the negative.  Affluence was intended for you upon your inception, and now you must prepare to meet it at the source.  Pursue your natural expression, resonate with your natural expression, and gratefully appreciate, gratefully allow.

The highs and the lows of life…

“Life is a gift when you know how to create and enjoy the highs

and survive and build strength from the lows.”

This quote is from the “about DRL” section of this site.  I didn’t really remember writing it until a good friend mentioned something about it hanging on many office walls in her hospital. 

At this, I twisted my head and said, “what is hanging on many office walls in your hospital?” 

“Your quote!” she said. 

“What quote?!” I remarked ever more intrigued.  Well,  you get the idea. Eventually she got out her Blackberry and brought up my page and read it back to me.  “Wow,” I said.  “That’s pretty good!”

I smile even now.  What I wrote was and is true and I am very honored that Heidi has it on her wall and others have taken to making photocopies and putting it on their walls….  Absolutely fantastic. 

What is very interesting to me is that I forgot that I wrote this little line, and even more so, that people would be inspired by my words.  Thank you!  Thank you; thank you.

Its amazing what effects we have, every day.

Connections and High Performance

You know about systems of government, circulatory systems, systems of thought, the educational system….  On and on it goes.

When someone or some group maximizes the potential of one or many systems in concert to create amazing results, they are synergizing their systems for high performance.

The Synergy in Life System and the central concepts of GreenSeed Consulting have come to be as a result of my experience, training, observation, and thought in several diverse areas. These are: systems of team play used in sport; systems of thought from both psychology and philosophy; systems of individual human performance from the study of physiology; systems of education; physical and mental systems from martial arts… and systems of management and leadership. 

It was the study of systems of management that started me looking closely at the profound connections within and between systems.  I knew from experience that all systems have aims or objectives and that creating synergy within and between systems is where high performance is born.  When you look at it in a general sense, everyone knows this but just might not use the same vocabulary to explain high performance.  For me, it was when I started to study the area of Systems Thinking — interestingly, it has roots in electrical engineering — that the power of finding and creating connections within and between systems began to establish as at first a thought and now as a FACT in my mind.

For example, there are connections between systems of play in sport and the systems of physiological training used with the athletes on a team; they also require systems of thought that are geared to performance… and this requires a vision or a system of philosophy.  That same team requires training and learning derived from and brought forth through systems of education…. On it goes. It’s all connected.

How about your group or team?  Are there connections within and between systems?  How about you?  Do you have a system of thought that creates a state of high performance? 

What lays at the base of all the systems that exist in our world?  What is the connection that underlies all things?  Energy.  That is a statement of scientific fact.  Energy is our one substance.  Create a philosophy or psychology that is hopeful and has an aim, and you will create a resonant physiology of health — based on your use of and direction of energy.  Create a system of education that is natural, flowing, and in concert with psychology, physiology, social systems tendencies etc. and you will have a recipe for potential high performance because of the use of and direction of energy.  Everything is connected in energy, through aims and objectives, and most importantly through our ability to synergize individual and corporate systems to meet those aims and objectives.  That’s high performance!  This is fascinating.

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How to live life as a work of art…

FLOW…

Csikszentmihalyi is one of my favorite writers.  Hardest name in the world to spell and definitely defies pronunciation… but a very engaging writer and thinker.  I have grabbed some content from another site and posted it below.  If you like what you read click on the link I put above — the word FLOW.  Click it and you will go to the site from where this content was posted.  Or… type in < flow csi > in Google and there are over 185 000 hits to look at.  Some video, some books that he has written.  I recommend the book titled FLOW.  Fantastic!!  Much of what you will read in my book posted on this site is related to Csik’s work.  Read the rest of this entry »

What is Systems and Synergy.

There are always good questions and comments regarding Systems and Synergy.  Orlando recently checked in with a nice comment.  In my daily life, people keep asking me questions like: ”So, just what is this systems and synergy you write about.”  I always try to explain with… well, too many words. Then I realized just the other day that to have a practiced, concise answer to this good question is not slick or glib.  I realized that a precise and concise answer is important and necessary.  Here is the answer: Read the rest of this entry »